5 Tips for Helping You Invest in Yourself While Saturn Transits Capricorn 🪐♓️✨

Photographs via Franjo Matković

“In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me lay an invincible summer.”

— ALBERT CAMUS

Can you feel it?

It makes me feel clammy and grim. I feel more dread than ever before in my life. (At least since junior high.) 

Dread, to me, feels like "bad news" dragging at my teeth and bones. All day long. 😖😩😓

When I read this article from Aeolian Heart Astrology, the other shoe finally dropped. 

On December 20th, 2017, Saturn lurched into its dry, icy home base in the zodiac, Capricorn, where he’ll be for the next 2 1/2 years. That means, Saturn--that grim-about-the-mouth headmaster from the school of hard knocks--is cranked up, & will be hanging over our collective shoulders like chainmail. You may suddenly become hyper-aware of ticking clocks, or feeling as though your usually whisper-soft conscience is straight-up doggin’ you, so every ordinary emotion you feel comes tinged with shame or guilt. 

“With Saturn’s shift, the tone of things will change. Doors that have been left open will close. And all that has been meandering around in penultimate tones will be forced to find a conclusion.”

— Aeolian Heart Astrology, “Cosmic Trigger Warning ~ Saturn in Capricorn”

Saturn symbolizes our Outer Limits, the hard line between what's probable and what we simply don't have the reach for. Capricorn is the sign of soul-survival, personal excellence, and self-responsibility. 🪐⛰

Together, there's more tons of energy available to help you strengthen your soul-core while simultaneously improving your real world affairs!  

While Saturn is in Capricorn (until 2020), we have an opportunity to square away practical matters, for healing bad karma, and for relaying our personal foundations, so we can build higher than we would've been able to go. You’ll confront discrepancies between where you want to be and where reality proves you belong.

which makes this the perfect celestial vibe for making transcendent new year’s resolutions, for committing to pragmatism, and for tackling your scariest need-to-do’s that you know will uplevel your life!

Saturn’s transit into Capricorn is all about the brass tacks. No frou-frou visualization here, just a kind of icy pragmatism that every cosmic babe should master if she wants to live a magical life without face-planting on her own Idealism. 

(…such as myself. 💁🏻‍♀️) 

According to the Readiness Guide @ Aeolian Heart Astrology (get your's when you subscribe ✨), Saturn is transiting my Career House, the house of legacy-building. 

As a sneak-peek (🤫), here’s my personalized Saturn in Capricorn mantra from the guide: 

"one day you will become an ancestor."

I am transfixed by this information. 😳

I’m also a little obsessed with death (I’ve literally drafted funeral eulogies for all my friends and family, is that weird?), but this realization rocked me. 

When I was little (during my first Chiron Square, read more here ✨), my life was catastrophically impacted by my dad passed away—not just by the grief, but by the financial void. My mom never recovered from the debt, foreclosures, and bureaucratic drama that immediately ensued. By a certain point, she let it swallow her up.

Before reading my Saturn in Capricorn horoscope, I’d never before considered that EYE could be doing the same thing to someone else… or worse, to myself. 

I sat down and asked, What am I building with my life? 

AND WHAT I KNOW FOR SURE: I want to feel rock solid.

I want to spend Saturn’s tour of Capricorn clearing the slate, squaring things up, and tackling some taboo must-dos before I run out of time. I want to reboot the "taking care of business" quadrant of my life. ✊🏻

Most importantly, start consolidating and integrating the lessons learned from my Saturn Return. 😩

Let me show you what I'm doing, what I've done, and what I plan on doing while Saturn is in Capricorn! 

If you're not afraid of a little true grit, this 2-3(ish) year long Saturn transit is the perfect time for relaying foundations, especially in areas of life that are pretty shoddy and out of sync with the outcome you want!

WHERE IS SATURN TRANSITING YOU…? 💫

FIRST OFF, you also might want to peek at where Capricorn is on your natal chart. Activities and contexts attributed to this house will describe the “field of experience” where Saturn’s transit will impact you most.

OFF THE TOP OF YOUR HEAD… do you know if you have any planets, angles, or special points in Capricorn? ♑️

…yes?

WELP, buckle up, butterfly, because those will be getting transited. 🦋⛰

Don’t freak out tho. Planets in a sign show how you psychologize the conditions and effects of that house… conditions that are described by the zodiac sign (which in this case, is Capricorn 👍🏻). A Saturn transit over Venus in Capricorn might shoulder-check your wants, preferences, and attraction scenarios, while Saturn transiting Mars in Capricorn might unlock your grit and ability to ability to focus on a desired outcome.

Basically, whatever planet gets transited by Saturn might get schooled… 

…but that’s in order to help inventory your karma in this area (how are you using your Capricorn planets… OR, how are they using you?), so that you can use them more wisely, and gain mastery. 🎓

HINT > If you want to chart Saturn’s transit all on your own, check out my posts: How to Read a Natal Chart ✨, followed by How to Track Your Astrology Transits ✨, for guidelines on how to DIY it. ✌🏻

But if you want some help figuring out where Saturn is transiting you, consider investing in a program like REALITY CHECK: The Evolutionary Power of Saturn in Capricorn, offered by Rachel Capurso @ Aeolian Heart Astrology! 

You’ll basically learn how to delineate (“break down” and “parse out”) the portion of your chart that Saturn will be transiting for the next two and a half years! 🤩

ALSO… is your natal Saturn (a.k.a. the Saturn on your birth chart) also in Capricorn? 

Congratulations, you’re experiencing your Saturn Return! 🥳

Whether you’re going through the real-real of Saturn Return, or just want to optimize this transit, I have some tips and resources for gearing up, and hazarding the worst of it…

…WHICH, because this is about Saturn, will help you become your best. ✊🏻

5 TIPS FOR GETTING REAL WITH SATURN IN CAPRICORN 🪐⛰

Photographs via Franjo Matković

OKAY… I’m definitely not an expert at reality. Or life.

In fact, during my Saturn Return, I felt like… my life had careened so far out of control, I became a poster child for karmic fuck-ups. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Like—I got pregnant, dropped out of college (with one class left before graduation), cancelled my cell phone, gave away my car, and stranded myself in the American Bible Belt. 

And then… literally, I’m not making this up… the day that Saturn started transiting away from its natal position on my chart, my husband got recruited by a company back in California (thank fucking god).

(NOTE > Our Saturn’s are very close-by each other in our synastry… we basically had the same Saturn Return timeframe, as we all do with our peer group!)

BUT… I have to say, the horror of that experience definitely taught me something about growing up, getting grounded, and better prioritizing. 

Reality, as it turns out, is non-negotiable. ❌

And… as a result, I’ve developed a very useful allergy against LOA (law of attraction) and serendipity.

Which suits my Capricorn Moon just fine, I guess. 

ANYWAY, these are some of the tips that I learned to master during my Saturn Return…

…which, btw, I had always kinda known about, even applied when pursing a specific objective…

…but had always been compartmentalized. As in, under-utilized in my wider life, only applied when I thought someone was watching, or that the outcome would be tangible.

Until my Saturn Return (Saturn in Sagittarius, btw 🪐♐️), I hadn’t realized that I was short-changing myself, or neglecting my wider responsibilities*.

(Prop 215 definitely made it easier to gloss that over. 💁🏻‍♀️)

WHICH IS WHY… I really must share these tips and resources, as well as some of my own intentions and motives for this heavy transit period, so that we might broker our karma and master the basics together…

…like a giant astro-inspired karmic orgy! 🥰

We’re all becoming masters!!

Anyway…

✨ TIP #1: TIME LOG YOUR LIFE

What are you doing with your life? 

Like, seriously. Where do you spend your time, focus, and energy?

Does the investment feel as if it’s snowballing into lucky synchronicity, or does everything in your life feel like it’s grinding down to a halt?

Do you even know?!

What I’m about to suggest will sound insane. But it works. It works, because it’s based on data, not on how you think, hope, or feel like your time is spent.

The only way to know without a shadow of a doubt is by getting a topological view of it. On paper. Broken down by the activities you spend your life-time doing. 

It’s easy. Buy a pocket-sized notebook or create a new folder in your iPhone’s Notes app. (There are also time / activity logs for sale in app stores, but don’t buy one until you’ve already tried it out analog-style.)

Now, for the next 3 days, log your activity.

All of it. ✅

If you spend 4 hours after work watching Netflix, write it down. If you spend 2 hours at work clearing your inbox, write it down. If you spend 1 hour having sex (including foreplay), write it down. If you spend 10 minutes chatting with your cousin on Facebook messenger, which segued into 50 minutes rereading old emails from your ex, write it down. 

NO MATTER HOW TRIVIAL, OR CRINGE-Y IT MAKES YOU FEEL, WRITE IT DOWN. 👏🏻 👏🏻 👏🏻

Try keeping an activity log for just 3 days. After 3 days, break down the time spent based on how much you actually value the activity. Was that something you had to do, or something you chose to do? Why did I choose that? How did I spend that much time on it? What made that feel wise and appropriate at the time?

Obviously, you can’t switch up the obligations on your time in a snap…

…but you can reallocate the attention and effort you’re putting towards bogus, brain-drain shit that didn’t add much value. 

And when you know (down to your bones) how you would prefer to spend your time, you feel braver making the change. 

Besides helping you build a better schedule, time logging may clarify where (+ why) you’re struggling. 

You may realize you're spending more time cleaning up after your partner than is fair, which turns out to be the reason you’ve been quietly resenting him/her. 

Or realize you never have time for art projects or working out, because you’re spending 20 hours a week on #Netflixandchill. 

You might finally connect the dots between your 3 o’clock sugar craving and your ritual 45-minute scroll through Instagram.

The best thing I got out of activity logging: finally identifying what I’m totally unwilling to spend my time doing. When I saw all those minutes piling up…

...it was like suddenly noticing blood trickling from a small wound. A small amount of blood for sure, but still a drain on my life force. 

This was the article that walked me through keeping a time log. Scott tells you how to set the log up and evaluate the data, but you can be intuitive about this. Log for a certain amount of days, then note your reactions during your review. 

Like—literally write down your disappointment, or maybe even your pleasant surprise, at where + how you spend your time.

Michael Hyatt actually created a planner just for making your schedule match your ideal, which I haven’t used, but I’ve heard good things about. Here’s Amy Porterfield’s interview with him all about it.

OKAY, SO… how do you start tracking and managing your time (and making sure it doesn’t go on autopilot again)?

Read on...

✨ TIP #2: MAKE AN ACTION PLAN

OKAY, SO… once you know where your time + effort are going versus where you want it to go…

…how do you plot it? 🤔

Like—how do you get intentional with your time, and manifest your visions, goals, and other airy-fluffy intentions?

With an action plan. ✨✨✨

Action-planning is breaking a desired outcome down into smaller steps and tasks, then plotting when / where you’ll pull these items off. 

Sometimes just having these items on a calendar will be motivation enough, but many babes need to align their deadlines with tangible consequences (comme moi 💕). 

For instance, I’ll book a nail appointment for the day after a deadline. If I pull an action off, I keep the appointment. Otherwise, I call & cancel. (Or, more likely, reschedule for a week later, when I meet the task.)

And… where does an action plan live? And how do you make yourself accountable to it?

For me, I rely on an analogy planner. Like, stationery printed with daily, weekly, and monthly time-tracking sheets. A planner is a place to store info, and also engineer the outcomes you really want.

(It’s also a great spot for recording astrology data and time logs. 💁🏻‍♀️) 

It doesn’t have to be an actual planner, like the ones doled out in gift bags at freshman orientation. You just need a physical, analog space to retain that eagle-eye view of your life, so you can spot synchronicities and assess consequences.

Want to see what an action-plan looks like? Here are some free templates. Very corporate looking, but you can build your own in a program like InDesign or Microsoft Word, or even just use highlighters and gel pens to create a template in your diary!

Also, here’s an article that gets into the nitty gritty of goal-setting & action-planning. You’ll be the queen of getting-shit-done after reading this!

If none of this helps you start kicking goals in the fkn ass, don’t despair! You might be the kind of babe who needs an accountability-buddy or even a coach! 

If that’s the case, broadcast your need to your Facebook or LinkedIn network. Works best if you’re willing to ‘fess up to a big goal you have in mind, as well as admit where you’ve fallen short, or tend to struggle.

✨ TIP #3: MAKE YOURSELF ACCOUNTABLE (HINT: GET AN ACCOUNTANT)

ALRIGHT, REAL TALK…

Your duty is to understand the factors controlling your destiny. If you’re ever to going to elevate your financial status from “hapless magician in the Matrix” to “savvy deluxe babe in command of her destiny,” you're going to have to have to work on your money bubble.

💠 Draw a boundary around your financial world.

Don’t let anything out, but also, don’t let anything else in. Your new money mantra: Consider the source. Don’t take money advice from your BFF who’s still blogging about Occupy Wall St. and just had her car repo’d (just… trust me). Stop clicking on click-bait headlines like, "5 Ways This Stay At Mom Saves Her Family Over $X A Year." 

💠 And since you have to get advice from somewhere, make sure it’s top-shelf.

Shop around for a financial coach who can guide you where you want to be based on where you’re already at. It’ll be cringe-y and a little tough, because you’ll have to be willing to invest in the relationship, and also willing to be honest about your situation, as well as your true goals. You’ll have a guide and accountability.

Once you’ve got a coach / advisor, start playing by the rules. If they tell you to automate your bills, automate! If they tell you to rent out that spare bedroom to pay down your cards, get going! There’s no good reason to put this off unless you’re a little bit in love with security drama.

If you're not at the point where you're ready for personalized help (maybe you’re pre-Saturn Return, and not sure about your needs or goals yet 🤷🏻‍♀️), pick a personal finance author (just one) with a program you can commit to for at least 6 months. Immerse yourself in their savvy: buy their book, read their blog, listen to podcast interviews. 

Challenge yourself to map out 1-2 financial goals you can apply their insight towards. Even if it’s just an experiment, it’ll help you clarify what money means to you, and what your actual habits and attitude are towards it.

If you go the self-help route, keep in mind that there’s way more guesswork, and consequently, more opportunity for self-sabotage. You may be rather attached to your money drama, in which case, get super wary of yourself: you are manipulating your money narrative.

Again, don’t reach out to a friend or sibling or parent, but to some kind of counselor or expert*.

(*Not unless you’re asking for contact info for a financial advisor they’d recommend.)

IF YOU TRY TO “TALK OUT” YOUR MONEY DRAMA TO A FRIEND, LOVER, ETC… I’m calling you out: you’re looking for someone to manipulate, not realizing that you suffer the consequences, not them.

One way that the self-help route can be useful: once you’re ready to invest in an expert, you know exactly what you want to get out of the relationship.

The book that served me most on the self-help route: The 7 Steps To Financial Freedom by Tony Robbins. It’s a beast (700+ pages!), but I read it cover to cover in 3 days and came away with a set of rules tailored to my idea of wealth. So far, so good. 

For sure, some of the book is about recalibrating your mindset, but most of it is about making an action-plan. ✅ 

If you’re interested, here’s part 1 of Marie Forleo’s 2-part interview interview with Tony Robbins about the book.

ALSO, if you’re sensitive and just very frustrated with the debt-based delusion of our society, you might be interested in this novel: The Game of Saturn by Peter Mark Adams. 

Disclaimer: I haven’t actually read this book, but the content prompted a massive group discussion in one of my Facebook groups and has been highly recommended by Dame Elliott of WITCH Magazine.

✨ TIP #4: CONSECRATE YOUR INNER CITADEL

“During this Saturn transit, you will be moved to create much needed boundaries, demanding your right to privacy and to moments of silence. Acknowledging that you need space and distance is not the problem, but is in fact the solution.”

— Aeolian Heart Astrology, “Cosmic Trigger Warning ~ Saturn in Capricorn”

During my Saturn Return, I needed a lot of space. Space to, like, process. Deconstruct. Pick through. Re-integrate. 

I decided to create a contemplative practice. I've always liked the idea of the Stoic's inner citadel. I totally believe we all need consecrated inner-space, plus time and place to take care of it.

I take care of mine during my kid's naptime. I curl up on the sectional with my planner-grimoire and a glass of tepid lemon water. I read a little something that I know will give my mind traction. 

Sometimes it's an article I found on the web, and it's never a pleasurable sort of topic, like style or book recommendations. It's gotta have a message, idea, or perspective. Even if the reading is a critical essay about MTV’s The Real World. 

The reading takes 5 minutes, then I spend the rest of my time there just mulling over what I've read. Sometimes I journal, too.

On occasion, I'll have a eureka moment in one of these contemplation sessions. Mostly though, I just enjoy the engagement.

Maybe for you, building an inner citadel means finally getting into meditation. Maybe you need is a pretty candle and a playlist of Lakshmi mantras. You could pick a few good Marcus Aurelius quotes from a book. Maybe you pull a daily tarot card or cast runes.

Oh, and this is critical: show up. Be consistent. Your Inner Citadel is your place to reflect and take stock. This is a place to suddenly think up solutions to your really big questions. It's totally worth the effort of making it into a habit, especially before something happens when you'll desperately crave an interior space to think about your life.

And if you want to make your contemplative practice feel gratifying: buy a special diary you only use while you're in session. Before settling in, write the date, note the astrological weather du jour from the Time Passages app, then write a question, symbol, or idea at the top of a fresh page.

(HINT > This is all stuff I talk about in my post about creating a grimoire. Your grimoire is basically an altar for your magic mind. 🧠🌟✨)

You could also use the VoiceMemo app on your phone instead. Just make an effort to document a little bit from every Citadel session; you'll be glad you did when you're retracing the steps leading up to a major breakthrough!

✨ TIP #5: ASK FOR SOMETHING SOMEONE MIGHT SAY NO TO

“[I]t must be acknowledged that Saturn in Capricorn is not a glowering and malevolent spirit that seeks to destroy your sense of security. Instead, Saturn in Capricorn seeks to concentrate your vitality, letting all your thoughts and deeds be inspired by a potent sense of purpose!”

— Aeolian Heart Astrology, “Cosmic Trigger Warning ~ Saturn in Capricorn”

What is the most dreadful, cringe-y, anxiety-inducing task, chore, or activity you have to do? 

WELP…put it at the top of your to-do’s. 

You know what I’m talking about. The task that you feel too inadequate to pull off. The task you would go to the ends of the earth to avoid. The one that you almost hope to put off indefinitely… or at least until you finish school, figure out who you are, or learn the secrets of the universe.

Because here’s one of Saturn’s most irresistible, mysterious truths (which, incidentally, is also the key to mastering Saturn): When you're not afraid to suffer, you're not afraid of pain. 

Walking through fire clarifies your strengths. You are forced to retract into your core, so that everything non-vital simply burns away. Once you leave the fire, you can draw on core strength faster, almost unconsciously.

You walk into the fire trembling, but harden into diamond, and then walk away, scattering rainbows. 🌈🦋✨

So, here’s a dare.

Ask for something you want. It can be something you really, really want (so hearing “no” would actually be kind of devastating), or something totally trivial, but still uncomfortable enough that you’ll avoid asking… like, calling the bursar’s office at your school to settle a debt, or requesting a meeting with your psycho boss to ask about a promotion.

The point is to put yourself in an awkward, cringe-y position, so that you can just hurry up and get it over with.

Once it’s done, even if you didn’t get the preferred outcome, it’s off your task list…

…and the next time you have an intense, must-do task, you’re far less of a chicken shit about it. 👍🏻

IN FACT, once you do the horrible, dreaded thing, you gain new scope and perspective: you see your fear for what it is (mostly silly, and working against you), and you know to distrust it in the future.

You stop putting shit off, because the relief of just doing it is too good. 

For me, I dread the call center on my student loans. Even if one fast phone call could spare me a pointless fee or help me find out some crucial info I need for my taxes, I will not call. ❌

It's not about the call. It's because I don’t like thinking about the remaining totals on my loans. Even though that fact in no way affects my day-to-day. It's just a fact. 

Like, the temperature is 64 degrees, and I'm still on the hook for 100 grand. 

But one of the benefits offered at my husband's new job is a sweet deal on refinancing our student loans, which means I’ve gotta make that dreaded call to have some info shipped or linked to me. We could save thousands of dollars and years of repayment, but…

UGH. 

Y’know? 

Just ugh.

(Btw, I’ve physically fought my way out of physical altercations with my methed up stepfather, and had my wisdom teeth pulled without Novocain, and labored a baby all night with no food or analgesic [due to hospital policy]… 

So, I know how to confront and endure…

But calling that fkn hotline...

....makes my soul bleed...

UGH, UGH, UGH.)

I decided to take Jane McGonigal’s advice about turning challenges into games. This advice is Saturnine magic turned on its head. Instead of going into those tough tasks with my heart in my throat, I go into it as a hero with a clear objective. 

I’m not trying to slink by with as little damage sustained as possible… 

I’m going into it because the experience itself proves I am the hero of my story. 😊✨

BECAUSE… I kinda want to be my own hero, ya know?

Thinking of these challenges as games shrinks the task down to its real size. We’re hardwired to take dread and anxiety as indicators that the task or issue should be avoided, but avoiding the task only keeps those feelings at a low simmer…

…and then it’s just simmering away on the back burner, leaching attention and energy away from your better priorities.

Ready to go through the fire with me? Here are some scripts from Ramit Sethi for getting exactly what you want out all of the dreaded conversations you need to have! 

Don’t rationalize living with morose anxiousness. Face the hard stuff down.

Do it, so you can take that deep breath once it’s done, the breath that’s so deep, your whole nervous system tingles. 

That’s called relief. Once you have a taste, you're less likely to take heavy burdens on your heart for granted. 

All your other to-dos will virtually check themselves off. 

If you want to take full advantage of Saturn’s 2.5 year tour of Capricorn, consider investing in a program like REALITY CHECK: The Evolutionary Power of Saturn in Capricorn, offered by my faaav astrologer, Rachel Capurso @ Aeolian Heart Astrology! 

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Antidotes to Patriarchy: My Unsolicited Tips for Empowering Self-Care During the Post-Inaugural Craze

If you’re anything like me, you’ve had major FOMO this month. I admit, since the election, it's felt like one long bad day. I'm holding an ideological crisis at bay.

But in my actual real world experience? Nothing is ruined. I'm still the holy queen of my own psychic universe. Life is sweet & bright. Gratefully, at this point in my own journey unto sacred femme empowerment, I've gathered plenty of power-boosters; a cache of simple prescriptions to recalibrate my psychic pH & fight psychic toxicity. I call them Antidotes to Patriarchy.

Antidotes to Patriarchy are habits of self-care which empower the Feminine in my everyday reality. Antidotes stoke my creative fires, dampen the media noise, & stock more oomph in my tank.

And lately, I'm finding them crucial to staying on my grind. I've plugged alerts into my phone to ping throughout the day & remind me to apply an Antidote.

If the inaugural craze has you moving around in a cloud of funk, let me share some of the Antidotes I'm drawing on most right now!

💠 GET OUT OF REACTIVE MODE.

Reactivity is disempowering. Although Twitter makes you feel like you're participating in the convo, you're still only a bystander. Power down your TV. Temporarily delete your social media apps. Be constructive & find inspo instead. Block out time to light candles & just listen to music; to hand-write love notes to your friends; to daydream. Remember, you are responsible for your own experience. If you can't tangibly affect something that's affecting you in this mo', you're wasting vital energy. Store it up & channel it somewhere useful.

💠 GO ACTION-BY-ACTION.

Focus on follow through, not on debate. If you've got to make a point about something you read about (especially if it shows up in your social feeds), print it out, paste it into your diary, & scribble furiously about it until the urge the respond moves through you. Instead of masturbating your point of view & stoking the fires of hate-debate, use social media to alert people about the concrete actions you're taking. Why not read about the next 10 actions for the next 100 days (you can do this even if you didn’t join the Women's March) & update FB / Twitter whenever you complete an action? This is the only way to make sure the post-inaugural craze loses its crazy without losing its heat.

💠 SPEAK SOVEREIGN.

Sovereignty means taking responsibility for your beliefs, how you feel, & the way you act. Which means, not blaming what's happening on TV for why you won’t take care of yourself. Don't miss deadlines, skimp on chores, or otherwise let your life end up in the weeds. If you're feeling overwhelmed, say no to anything you don't need to take on right now. Stop posting on Twitter or FB that you're not eating or haven't showered. Commit to the belief that you do have power & exercise it where it matters most: maintaining your functionality.  

💠 FIND SOLUTIONS WITHIN YOURSELF.

Now is the time for idealists to give substance to their ideals. Step away from media & reflect: What can I personally do to counteract this political aggression? Even if it's as small as paying for the order of the person waiting behind you in line, start somewhere. Surprise yourself with what you can come up with & appreciate how gratifying it feels.

💠 TRANSFORM THE HEART OF SUFFERING.

If you're reading this, you might be empathetic by nature & upside down with overwhelm. Try Tonglen meditation: a technique where you breathe in the world's pain, then breathe out higher vibes. Pema Chodron, femme Buddhist extraordinaire,  talks about Tonglen meditation in this article. You can also follow along with Pema as she demonstrates Tonglen breathing in this video.

💠 LEVERAGE YOUR PRIVILEGE.

You have access, resources, & options. Use them mindfully. Give your money away to activists; donate time teaching English to Syrian refugees; post empowering poetry to your social feeds. Even if you’re a stay-at-home mom with limited bandwidth & cash on hand, you can still leverage your privilege through demonstration: your children are your witnesses. Claim boundaries. Never justify your needs. Let them see how you honor yourself & other people. 

💠 SELF-EDUCATE & GO INDEPENDENT.

Build a life that protects your vulnerabilities from the insanity of Patriarchy. Jen Dziura will get you squared away. Start here: How To Run Your Career Like A Gentlewoman. Charge up your laptop, grab a notebook, your favorite pen, then tuck away into a cafe with a huge cup of coffee for a few hours of binge-reading. Trust me--this binging will feel 1,000x more gratifying than what you've been doing on news blogs, because you will take away plenty of actionables.

And, frankly, that's what you really need: actionable information.

So... the election. The inauguration. Yeah, it's a bummer. Shocking. Crazy-making.

But you're not disempowered. If you feel that way, you've self-selected it. Let the gross feelings move through you instead of anchoring you down.

Remember, attention is intention. Continue ritualizing the Yin, demonstrating self-authority, & creating what you need by taking ownership of what’s truly your's: your time, attention, & energy.

Reclaim your psychic space. Don't trivialize your power by focusing it on Twitter, Facebook, & broadcast TV. Put your attention towards whatever gives you the greatest agency.

What are you doing to stay well during the craze? Tweet it me!

Stay brave,