Lilith in Astrology: How to Find (+ What to Do About) Black Moon Lilith 🐍🌙

NATAL ASTROLOGY
Written By Ash Barros
How to Find and Interpret Black Moon Lilith in a Natal Chart via HellaNamaste.jpg

Okay, so, even in hella ancient dayz, Lilith was an OG. 🤘🏻

Technically, Lilith is an amalgamation, combination, and consolidation of all the prehistoric power goddesses, the Sumerian Beyoncés, boiled down by anxious rabbis into one bratty supreme, with the intention of scare-mongering female rebellion out of the human enterprise.

Kthx, rabbis. 🙄

the lilith archetype has been applied to a few different objects in astrology, the most notorious being black moon lilith. 🐍🌙

Other objects you could scout for in your birth chart would be asteroid Lilith (1881) and Dark Moon or Waldemath Lilith (H58). Black Moon Lilith isn’t an actual object (like a planet or asteroid), but empty space, the empty space furthest from Earth along the Moon’s orbital path, a.k.a. the literal lunar dark side.

Taken together, the astrological Liliths tell a story of how we get “tabooed”, and manage the consequences. We want to do our Lilith the way we want... without rules, accountability, or follow-through. She reveals where we're faulty, where we tend to insist on doing things our own way….

…and also where we’ll probably lose self-control. 😣

black moon lilith corresponds with a part of us tied to our natural self, but conditioned, so that expressing this natural self feels wrong, embarrassing, guilt-provoking… taboo. 👻

In a natal chart…

  • Black Moon Lilith pinpoints our sovereignty issues, a.k.a. our power struggles, where we tend to manipulate, deceive, and subvert (perceived) rules and authority-figures… and also where we tend to be easily manipulated, deceived, and subverted by others. 😬😤

  • Black Moon Lilith is also the aesthetic of our deepest conviction: the theme and persona of how we assert ourselves on our own behalf, how we express and go after what we need and want.

  • Black Moon Lilith also indicates self-righteousness and “regretted desires,” or where we have historically ignored or misrepresented ourselves, and jeopardized our freedom.

  • Black Moon Lilith is also considered one of the “erogenous zones” of the natal chart, the hot spot where we tend to crave intimate exposure and satisfaction, particularly in synastry. 💕

  • Black Moon Lilith also reveals our inner witch, our secret sorcery, and instinctual intelligence… the more prominent our inner witch, the keener our most subtle psychic instincts, the better we’re able to “read” a person and situation.

In our natal chart, Black Moon Lilith tells a story about where we stand our ground, and also where we’ll abandon the cause. Our Lilith shows where and how we buck against consensus, compromise, and top-down authority. This is the area of life where we might throw a tantrum and disappear.

Like—dropping out of school, getting an abortion, moving out, going off grid, and never officially breaking up. 😳🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

“In an astrology chart, Black Moon Lilith represents a person’s primitive impulses and behavior in their rawest form. It reveals our repressed sexuality, together with what makes us feel most vulnerable; it expresses the dark side of one’s personality, buried deep in the subconscious realms of our psyche. Knowing where Black Moon Lilith is located in a birth chart can reveal information related to the shadow self, and can also determine possible hidden sexual fantasies and secret fetishes.”

— Vice.com, “The Point in Your Star Chart That Reveals Your Hidden Sexual Desires”

Black Moon Lilith is a point we repress, while also representing the point where we most crave validation. Black Moon Lilith is where we act out, trying to finally find acceptance of our most controversial traits, needs, and preferences. She is the cause, pursuant, and result of intimate betrayals and unjustified persecution, delivered through our earliest relationships with those we loved and depended on. 😔💔

Which is also why Lilith is often attributed to our kinky sex stuff, though Lilith herself is not intrinsically sexual. Seduction is where we’re allowed to “perform” our Lilith, where she’s allowed catharsis… to release built-up tension, and disclose our “other-ness.”

Basically, Black Moon Lilith represents a point where we vie for attention, while knowing from our most primordial memories that we’re technically not entitled to this kind of attention… not unless we can make it gratifying for others, or figure out how to tempt them into making us an exception to the rules…

…which is exactly how Black Moon Lilith not only represents conviction, the conditions for which we feel strongest about our own self-interest, but also the point where we tend to embroil ourselves in scandals, and become victims in our own power-mongering.

Thus, Black Moon Lilith describes where and how we want it… and also why we’ll run once getting it. 🏃🏻‍♀️💨

“I propose to give a value to Lilith/Dark Moon also in Karmic Astrology, where it could represent the regret for something that we did not carry out in the proper way, which afflicts us in this incarnation precisely because it was not achieved in our previous life experiences.

The absence, the regret, the desire represented by Lilith never coincide with Death. It is suffering because it identifies with the desire, but it coincides with that part of death that allows us to keep ourselves alive. It is a non-place, the un-said, a concept that cannot be formulated nor psychically/psychologically represented. A kind of Great Absent, considering that what we long for hopelessly is the precise identity of our desires. In this sense, Lilith/Dark Moon can be connected to:

Remorse, Regret, Nostalgia, Deprivation, Relics, Scars, Memories, Unfulfilled wishes, Negative experiences.”

— Astro.com, “Lilith - Black Moon: A Golden Ally in the Astrological Interpretation”

OBVIOUSLY, though it might be cringe-y to look into, Black Moon Lilith might give you an access point, a discovery session, or opportunity for healthfully reconnecting with your courage, conviction, and sacred self-assertion.

Tracing the Lilith story in our natal chart can bring us face-to-face with all the trouble we’ve caused other people, and all bad feelings we’ve ever felt…

…while also giving us a working blueprint for personal redemption, for tapping into our own power and meeting our own most primal needs and preferences, instead of trying to seduce others into giving us permission to want, need, and be. 🧘🏻‍♀️🧬

BUT, obviously, until you’re able to breech your own taboos and face your regrets, you’ll forever rely on the rabbis for personal validation, and remain embarrassed of your own feelings of conviction. ✊🏻

let me show you where to find and read for black moon lilith in your natal chart, as well as introduce you to a couple of shadow work how-to’s for applying your rad new astro insights into your lunar dark side…

…and hopefully help you separate out your powers of conviction from any guilt and embarrassment about acting on them. 🐍🌸💫

I’ll first provide explainers on all three different versions of Lilith in a natal chart, and then show you how to delineate Black Moon Lilith specifically.

You might want to already have or know where to get a copy of your natal chart, though I’ll summarize how to grab one from Astro-Seek, and also link to a “Black Moon Lilith calculator” below to get you started. ✨

In my next post, I’ll do a tutorial about Black Moon Lilith in synastry, a.k.a. relationship astrology, to help you figure out where + how this Lilith angst tries to explore and exercise itself through our most intimate connections… 💕

…and also how she works to sabotage them. 😳😅

 

HOW TO FIND BLACK MOON LILITH IN YOUR BIRTH CHART 🐍✨ >

OKAY, there’s actually three different versions of astrological Lilith we could examine in the natal chart, each a different facet of the same theme: taboo, repression, and release. 🧘🏻‍♀️🐍💕

🐍🌟 LILITH, THE ASTEROID (#1881) > The “demon” goddess of grief and regret, haunting us like her self-imposed exile from Eden (and subservience to Adam): "In this form Lilith may channel this grief into some shadowy themes by taking from others; her story details her stealing the seamen from men while they sleep or taking children from their mothers... Through overcoming hardships and making choices to be free from dependence on others even when the road is rockier and harder, in the end you will be standing in your own power. As a sovereign who has chosen your own path, directing your own destiny in an attempt to overcome the ‘fate’ side of life."

🐍🌟 WALDEMATH MOON LILITH (H58) > A.k.a. the “trickster” goddess (though astronomically… it’s mostly dust speckles ✨): "For the mysterious nature of this Lilith I feel her operating as trickster energy with humor and hidden meaning, keeping us guessing as to the validity and whereabouts of this mysterious shadow Moon. This energy is like Neptune combined with Mercury it is quick, spiritual, and hard to pinpoint. Using humor and laughter as medicine in moments of difficulty and change. In this form Lilith has wings, she uses her words of power to overcome, and she uncovers injustice through trickery."

🐍🌟 BLACK MOON LILITH (H13) > The apogee (a.k.a. furtherest point) of the Moon, a.k.a. the “death” goddess, the one that haunts our sense of propriety: "Lilith is asking us to sacrifice and shed off everything that defines us in order to authentically understand our true nature and true divinity. To know our spiritual name and find freedom in the deepest parts of our being. She represents the psychopomp of the underworld leading us through a symbolic Death as we enter through the gates of the underworld, our own personal shadow lands, in order to emerge on the other side enlightened and full of wisdom about ourselves and our personal journey. With this energy we are reconciling our base energies with our Higher Self. We may go through many periods of initiation like this throughout our life. Usually characterized by major external life events or internal spiritual crisis/breakthroughs."


IN THIS POST, I’M FOCUSING ON BLACK MOON LILITH (BML) > BML is not an actual body (like a planet or asteroid), but the Moon’s apogee, furthest point from Earth along its orbit (in empty space). 👌🏻

FYI > This article actually parses out and describes how to interpret all the Liliths in a chart, each one contributing to the gestalt of your personal shadow, each one able to illuminate a different facet of your story. Click the link to find out more about each face of astrological Lilith and how you might incorporate all three into your analysis (quotes from above also can from this article ✌🏻).

OKIE DOKIE, let me guide you through reading for Black Moon Lilith placement by sign, house, and aspects! ✨

ONE. GRAB YOUR NATAL CHART, THEN LOOK FOR LILITH'S RAD SYMBOL.

You can get a copy of your birth chart for free from Astro-Seek or Astro.com. Astro-Seek will automatically display Black Moon Lilith in your chart, but if you get your chart through Astro.com (as I suggest in this post ✨), you’ll have to select for ‘Lilith’ under the “additional objects” menu in step #6 (or type H13 into the box below the menu).

ALTERNATELY, you can also use the Astro Library Lilith Calculator. 💁🏻‍♀️✨

WANT A CHART THAT DISPLAYS ALL THREE ASTROLOGICAL LILITHS? > Hit up Astro.com, hover your cursor over “Free Horoscopes” in the navigation bar, then click “Extended chart selection” from the dropdown menu.

Follow the steps I outlined in this post, and when you get to step #6, type these three “codes” into the box under the section labelled “additional objects”:

  • 1181 (asteroid Lilith)

  • h58 (waldemath lilith), and

  • h13 (black moon lilith).

The chart that will be displayed will feature all three versions of astrological Lilith. ✨

FYI > Whether you use a Lilith calculator or get your full natal chart from one of the softwares I just linked to, you’ll need your birth date, time, and location. ✅

I’m only covering Black Moon Lilith in this tutorial (from a chart produced via Astro-Seek), but if you want more information about the others, here’s the link again to that article parsing out various Lilith archetypes. ✌🏻

TWO. ONCE YOUR CHART IS DISPLAYED, NOTE THE SIGN (OUTER RIM) AND HOUSE (NUMBER ON THE INSIDE BETWEEN THE SPOKES). 

Lilith in a zodiac sign tends to accentuate the “darker” or negative versions of that sign.

For instance, Cancer is associated with the energy of tribal-level bonding, and on the chart, represents where we tend to express affection and caregiving. Lilith in Cancer tilts that energy towards smother-love, where affections can intensify, erupt into “you’re either with me or against me” ultimatums, and finally crescendo into… not only tribal eviction, but burn the house down scenarios. 🤭

By contrast, the Moon in Cancer tends to amplify and deepen Cancer’s themes for affect and nurturing. The Moon absorbs whatever it comes into contact with, drawing objects deep into itself, metabolizing experiences on a soul-level. The Moon also rules Cancer, amplifying the feeling of somatic-level personal connection to another person and/or an environment. 🌙♋️

In Cancer, Lilith craves that deep interpersonal connection and implicit belongingness, but also tends to alienate herself from it. Her soulful, intuitive, heart-felt connections become trigger points.

Un-woke to this tendency, Lilith tends to become emotionally enmeshed with the objects of her affection, and then ultimately (and quickly) begins to resent the feelings and neediness she’s inspired. 🐍♋️

Thus, Lilith’s trademark erraticism kicks in, and she flees the situation… usually leaving the others feeling bereft.

lilith in the signs ♈️♉️♊️ >

Lilith’s zodiac sign tells you a little about her manipulative tendencies. Lilith expresses herself through the “shadow qualities” of the sign. 

🌟 LILITH IN THE AIR SIGNS (Libra, Aquarius, Gemini ♎️♒️♊️ 🪶) > Lilith in an Air sign builds fast friendship and affinity through rapport, appealing to others’ sense of grace, or contorting the truth for relatability. She might rope others into a grand scheme, then turn a cold shoulder. She might say one thing (the nice thing she should say), then do the opposite. Airy Lilith often alienates through rule-mongering and should-isms, or uses her social advantage to annex contrarians. Prone to inventing rationalizations for discrediting perceived enemies. Others might feel they have to choose their words carefully, and that they can’t entirely trust the people Lilith brings ‘round. Twisted logic and fibbing abounds.

🌟 LILITH IN THE WATER SIGNS (Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces ♋️♏️♓️💧) > Lilith in a Water sign bonds with others almost on sight, proclaiming new friends to be soul-mates and one-of-the-family, and by revealing secrets or relaying intense personal stories. She’s prone to taking emotional hostages, fabricating us against the world scenarios, threatening her own life if the bond should break. Might accuse others in her crosshairs as being “un-woke”, or emotionally vampiric while indulging in fits of inappropriate catharsis (laughing at a funeral, weeping on a first date). Needy, wants to be babied, desperately seeking a soothsayer (hi 🙋🏻‍♀️).

🌟 LILITH IN THE FIRE SIGNS (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius ♈️♌️♐️🔥) > Lilith in a Fire sign treats relationships, work, or life in general as her proving grounds. Firey Lilith warps collaborations into contests of will, building camaraderie through teasing (if not harassment), and reiterates where she and others rank (on anything, everything). She vies for kudos and a starring role, then bails on the opening or skips out on the awards night. Abandons apprenticeships, invents unnecessary rivalries, and often finds herself herself to be someone’s secret bully.

🌟 LILITH IN AN EARTH SIGNS (Capricorn, Taurus, Virgo ♑️♉️♍️🌿) > Lilith in an Earth sign can be insatiable, critical of others’ self-indulgence (if not materialism in general), and obsessed with quality, excellence, and perfection. She can be repressed about her own need for pleasure and simple luxury, or prone to lording such over others. Earthy Lilith can be resentful of having mundane responsibilities, or over-controlling of minutiae. Pie-in-the-sky ambition, and Machiavellian genius.

lilith in the houses >

Lilith’s house placement reveals where she werks the darker tendencies of her zodiac sign, the particular circumstances she’ll to manipulate.  

🌟Houses 1 - 6 are the personal houses, and correlate with our interior experiences. We internalize these energies (planets) and themes (signs). We relate and interpret these energies through our identity (first house) or personal rhythm (sixth house).

🌟Houses 7 - 12 are the interpersonal houses, and correlate with experiences we have with others, either communally (eleventh house) or by reputation (tenth house). The interpersonal houses are separated from the personal houses by the horizon line running across the center of the chart, aka the Ascendent - Descendent axis.

Lilith in a house indicates the arena where we crave autocracy: the contexts and situations where we want control or leverage, while also resisting accountability.

Whichever house Lilith lands, the activities and attributes of this house will become taboo. You’re either super-hands off, or fanatical. My way or the highway…. Oh, but I really couldn’t, I’m not even sure how…

If the activities of the house involve others—whether kids (fifth house), pets (sixth house), spouses (seventh house), or colleagues (eleventh house)—those are who and what Lilith will manipulate.

“There can also be a binging and purging cycle involved with the traits of Lilith’s sign or house wherein we overdo or go all out, expressing these traits in extreme, then feel bad for doing so. This leads to a purging stage in which we reject or deprive ourselves of the traits. Eventually, the need for them is strong and we go to extremes again, perpetuating this self-destructive cycle.”

— CafeAstrology, “Black Moon Lilith in the Signs + Houses”

REMEMBER, Lilith is the part of our chart harboring shame and guilt over our needs and wants. Her sign and house placement describe what those needs are, and where she prefers to have them met… though she will eventually reject anybody who tries supplicating her, and abandon the situation.

OBVIOUSLY, regardless of her demand for autocracy (having the most amount of freedom with the least amount of accountability), over time Lilith will become weary and resentful of her own tendencies (more of which can be described and illustrated by…)…

THREE. CHECK FOR ASPECTS TO BLACK MOON LILITH.

Aspects describe the relationship between planets. Any aspects between Lilith and the other planets or angles of your chart will paint that planet or angle with her trademark snakes-on-a-plane vibe. ✨

If she’s in close aspect to one of your angles (i.e. your Ascendant or Midheaven), Lilith might make it hard to pick up certain signals. Angles make up the “antennae” of your chart, where and how we receive signals and facilitate yourself through life. Having Lilith close-by an angle can make those signals difficult to tune into, like trying to drive your car home at midnight but having left your eyeglasses at home. 😖

When Lilith aspects any of your planets, you can assume that she will tussle with those planets’ energy / instincts. Drawing on that energy / instinct might feel like trying to pick up toothpicks while wearing oven mitts, as Lilith’s taboo keeps that energy elusive, in our perpetual blind spot.

Some aspects are considered “easy” (trines, sextiles), and some are considered “hard” (squares, oppositions). Conjunctions (when planets are side-by-side) are considered both easy and hard. With Lilith in the mix, any aspect is a struggle, because Lilith’s taboo will make the energy and receptor-site foggy to locate… unless we’re concentrating on it, knowing that she’s throwing her ju-ju on that area. ✅

NOTE > If Lilith aspects any of your personal planets (Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus, or Mars 💫), you likely have a “strong Lilith”. Strong Lilith means that you identify with your own lunar dark side, which both eases and complicates any awakening process you’re fated to undergo once your own Lilith-related patterns become too heavy and obvious to bear (yay).

lilith aspects to the planets 🪐 >

In astrology, the Sun and Moon are considered our “lights.” When Lilith aspects our Sun or Moon (🌻🌙), she hues our life force. We feel raw, overexposed, as though the dark spots on our lens of awareness grow in proportion with that awareness itself. Alienation and sovereignty are major themes in our self-transformations. Sometimes we aren’t able to transform without risking our freedom or exile. We must strip down, peel away each layer, leave everything and everyone behind in order to find ourselves.

This is the part of Lilith’s mythology where she exits Eden forever and runs berserker into the outlands (and the rumor-mongering ensues).

Nature is a major motif for Lilith. Lilith-Sun and Lilith-Moon are allowed to be in their own truth, without the dread of blame and shame. Nature’s rules are intuitive, whereas cultural rules are learned, and malleable, according to whoever is wielding the power.

“I would imagine though that the fiery creativity of the Sun fused with the piercing intuition of Lilith would make these subjects sexually magnetic and intense. They are closely bound to the spirit world, and can perform powerful magic for good or for ill. Mostly it seems, even the combust subjects are exiled, they will create their own breed of sexuality or moral code. In effect then, Sun conjunct Lilith crowns itself.”

— Darkstar Astrology, “Sun Conjunct Lilith, Eclipse + Exiled”

NOTE > Lilith to your Sun or Moon often correlates with drug dependency and intimacy drama… or basically, faulty coping habits, and a penchant for toxic relationships. 😬

Both of which are, obviously, problematic (more so than carrying around this loaded-up Lilith vibe), but also help create the nutrient-dense soil where our transformation can root and eventually flower. 🏵

Same deal when Lilith aspects one of our other “personal” planets, Mercury, Venus, or Mars (🧚🏻🌸🔥). The energies of these planets are doused in her hunger, or taken hostage. Lilith hijacks these energies for her own purposes, which she might easily turn against.

Because she’s our blind spot, we don’t notice her toxic alchemy until there’s a consequence: We say, attract, or do something that invites blame and shame. 😡😞

Lilith aspects to Jupiter or Saturn (🕊🪐), the social planets, we see our Lilith drama playing out in our ambitions or station. Lilith brings an uneasy vibe, which Papa Saturn or Daddy Jupiter can either want to exploit, or knock down a few pegs. In a natal chart, Lilith aspects to either suggests a bit of naive realism (inflated sense of entitlement, unrealistic expectations), and well-learned, well-earned life lessons.

Depending on the aspect, this is either a tension (square, opposition), or a tickling-tugging (sextile, trine), prodding this inner conflict, tracing these creases and folds in our psyche, to play out in our lives and relationships, until we gather enough reference experience to understand… I am co-engineering this drama. 😳👻

lilith aspects to the angles 🧭 >

The angles of our chart reveal how our chart functions. When Lilith is close-by any of your angles, it means that Lilith’s themes will become part of the basic functioning of your chart.

🌟 LILITH CONJUNCT THE ASCENDANT (ASC) > If Lilith is hovering nearby the Ascendant, you might identify with the Lilith archetype as readily as someone with Lilith conjunct their Sun or Moon. On good days, that would mean feeling freedom and power of influence, but on bad days, feeling outcasted, exiled, the embodiment of wrack and ruin. I am the thing slouching towards Bethlehem. Internalized shame and guilt, feeling as though a shadow hangs over your face, feeling as though everyone was just talking about you before you entered the room. Our Ascendent is the “starting line” of our entire natal chart, corresponding with the First House of identity. The ASC is also known as the “magnetic axis”, meaning that you might attract and handily identify with many Lilith types, or those with strong or prominent Lilith’s in their charts (scroll down for more ✨). Find self-acceptance by finding strong, and grounded women to mirror and emulate.

🌟LILITH CONJUNCT THE NADIR (I.C.) > If Lilith is close-at-hand to the Nadir (bottom-most angle of the chart, aka the IC), you’ll not only identify with Lilith, but at home with Lilith, outcasts, the exiles, the excommunicated. Your heart beats with Lilith’s footfalls. She’s an honorary member of your family or Wolfpack. The nadir of our chart corresponds with our tribal heart, our lineage, and how we root into the world. With Lilith here, you might feel true belonging with Lilith, but at the risk of having your own needs trodden. You might find yourself beckoned into strange symbiotic relationships with Lilith-types, where you manage their lives and consequences of their own Lilith behavior, while burying or ignoring your own. Protect the Wolfpack by correcting power imbalances, practicing self-care, learning boundary-setting, and constant emotional grounding.

🌟 LILITH CONJUNCT THE DESCENDANT (DSC) > If close-by the Descendent, you might be able to relate well with Lilith, might notice Liliths organizing themselves around you. You might best understand yourself as a “Lilith whisperer”, or gifted at Lilith advocacy. You can broker peace amongst Liliths, with proper protocols in place. Placing these guidelines on others doesn’t really help with managing your own grand-standing erraticism, defense strategies, or manipulative tendencies. We tend to project the qualities of planets close-by our DSC onto other others. Nevertheless, by learning to balance against other Lilith-types, you find inner equanimity, or peace regarding your own capacity to play a Lilith.

🌟LILITH CONJUNCT THE MIDHEAVEN (M.C.) > Finally, Lilith conjunct the Midheaven (top most angle, aka the MC), you’re a reputed Lilith, notorious, and. a prime example. You don’t care whose dick you have to suck, you’re getting where you want to go. Our Midheaven corresponds with our highest potential and ultimate status. Lilith at the Midheaven is an autocrat, demands respect, and will take all the rest of you down with her. You might find yourself building a rebellion from the ground up, and also, sabotaging the movement in one fell swoop. Look to the previous descriptions of Lilith conjunct the angles (or in the angular houses: first, fourth, seventh, tenth) for tips about consolidating and harnessing those extreme Lilith tendencies. People NEED a Lilith to direct them, especially when all other leaders have proven themselves duplicitous and untrustworthy. Only Lilith at the Midheaven understands the depths of demoralization. Here at the top, instead of running berserker into the night and abandoning everyone who looked up to her, Lilith can take flight. 🦅

how to write out your lilith placement 📝 > 

Now that you know all the major elements of your Black Moon Lilith placement, write it all out, Mad Libs style. ✨

Black Moon Lilith in ______ [the sign] in ______ [the house]…

[conjunct, squaring, opposing, etc., whatever her aspects to other bodies] ______

[any planets or angles she's in relationship with].

Once you have all the intel, masticate on it in your mental-imagination until it resembles something you might compare to your feeling-based experience, and allow to ferment in a notebook, diary, video, or voice recording. 💫

Then decide if this insight actually says anything about your triggers or alleged rebellious streak.

Like—does Black Moon Lilith speak to anything?? 🤔🤨

Do you identify or relate with descriptions of your Lilith placement? Do you have any memories or experiences that reflect it? What events or situations triggered those experiences? What about your response to those moments seem trademarked Lilith?

Basically, do you actually agree with what Google and Internet witches tell you about your angst, resentment, and feelings of personal injustice?

At first, you probably won’t be able to relate to most of what you discover about your Black Moon Lilith. Lilith is the “face” of our shadow side, the part of ourselves we repress, deny, and project. We dissociate from her, because she feels like a bad touch on our consciousness. Lilith is the aggregation of all the sensations and experiences we cannot bear to sit with.

Studying Black Moon Lilith can also lead us into icky territory. Lilith’s faults and perversities are often rooted in something that was done to or at us, that we now feel a little nasty about, and which express themselves as our “triggers.” 😵‍💫

Other people are typically more aware of our Lilith than us, at least until we’ve gained enough data to realize there’s something working itself in our consciousness that we’re not managing, or that we believed we had sufficiently cancelled or “life-hacked” out of existence.

Basically, we learn about our Black Moon Lilith placement by trying to sort out her consequences. 😫😡😓

Because Lilith gets repressed for a reason. She’s “snakes on a plane” 😜, she brings the awkward, scathing, or chilling silences we associate with public shame, parental disapproval, or however else your Lilith-vibe got taboo’d.

But all that energy represented by Lilith doesn’t just… disappear. ✨

Instead, she crops up in the most closed off, private, intimate interactions…

…or creates seedy situations where she can rip, and then bail out. 🐍🏃🏻‍♀️

BUT NOW THAT YOU KNOW, you’ll be able to catch her in the act, and maybe clean up her reputation by clearing your conscience. ✌🏻

tracking your lilith transits might help, especially during a lilith return, which happens every 9 years. 🐍🗓✨

You can use this Astro-Seek calculator to track Lilith’s transits, and compare to your natal chart. Just enter your birth data and  select “Lilith” from the dropdown menu.

HINT > I also select “To Planets and Angles” from the dropdown menu labelled “to Natal”. 👍🏻

When the Black Moon starts pulling up side-by-side one of your other planets, document the events, activities, and main players in your life….

…particularly any trigger-moments, or moments where you caught yourself bitching out. 👹

Once you get the full scratch on your Black Moon Lilith placement, you might come up with a new approach, or secret move to soothe your most deeply internalized shame and angst…

…so you can run your own shit without falling prey to hidden motives (yours or others’). 👌🏻

where to find more descriptions about your black moon lilith placement🐍 >

🌟 This MindBodyGreen article has wellness tips for Lilith in the Signs, and here is the HoodWitch guide to your erotic style according to Lilith Sign. Here’s more about Lilith in the Signs.

🌟 Find descriptions of Lilith in the Houses over here to compare to these descriptions of Lilith in the Houses as well as these ones, and balance against the descriptions of the Sign / Houses in this post.

🌟 Go here to read more about Lilith aspects with the personal / inner planets (with celebrity examples), and balance against this article with descriptions of Lilith aspects with the Outer Planets, angles, and Nodes. 💫

🌟 This astrologer describes “prominent” Lilith placements, including Lilith on the angles, which you can balance against Dark Pixie Astrology’s descriptions of a strong Lilith.

🌟 This Beyond Binary fandom page hosts a complete database of Black Moon Lilith aspects in the natal chart, mostly quoting Tom Jacobs and Darkstar Astrology, but also listing celebrities with similar aspects. ✅

 

WHAT’S CONSIDERED A “STRONG” LILITH IN A BIRTH CHART? 🤔😬 >

look close at lilith in your natal chart, and you’ll know she’s “strong” if lilith is…

🌟 ☌ Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus, or Mars (your “personal” planets, expressed in your personality)

🌟 ☌ the Ascendent, Nadir, Descendent, or Midheaven angles, or basically, in your  1st, 4th, 7th, 10th Houses (where our charts have the most oomph or energy)

🌟 ☌ the ruler of the Ascendant (go here to learn about finding your chart ruler 🤩💫)

🌟 ☌ the North or South Node (or basically, our “karma” and “dharma” points)

…or if lilith is…

  • In the First House (identity, appearance, persona)

  • "Anaretic", or at 29 degrees of any zodiac sign (read more about the anaretic degree here)

  • At the "Aries Point” a.k.a. "0 degrees" of Aries, Cancer, Capricorn, or Libra (the cardinal or most assertive signs of the zodiac)

Lilith in close-relationship with any of your planets tends to make the instinct represented by that planet more chaotic or elusive, so that it feels unpredictable, or difficult to locate. This planet’s energy, and the way you prefer to express it, might be taboo. You might feel embarrassed about attracting attention (Lilith ☌ Sun) or guilty expressing need or tenderness (Lilith ☌ Moon).

A strong Lilith can also make you a “Lilith avatar” for whom other people encounter and explore their own taboos, particularly in synastry (when Lilith conjuncts one another’s planets / angles) or when the Black Moon is transiting another person’s planets. Some people might be excited to encounter you as an avatar, but just as many might feel wary, and treat you unfairly…

…or, pretty much, you’re inflaming both of your insecurities and having no idea how, it’s just a super low-key (but super cringey) vibe. 👻💫💕

with a strong lilith placement, the campaign for validation and self-acceptance becomes existential. 👽

Basically, living with a strong Lilith placement is straight up Nietzschean. If you have one, you're slotted into a hot, holy, lifelong pursuit for amor fati (“love of one’s fate” = the recipe for raw power, read more here ✨), for which only an exclusive, maximal-karmic few will be able to recognize and appreciate. 👯‍♀️💖

In fact, with a strong Lilith placement, you might have to train yourself to not obsess about this incapacitating social delusion that your infinite, alpha-soul has been stuffed into, and for which nobody can free you from…

…only you can free yourself.

“With Black Moon Lillith in hard aspect or prominent in the chart, there can often be an adjustment needed in one’s attitude towards passion. 

Healthy desire is one thing, obsession is another, and with BML strong we are prone to obsessions. Our obsessions can be about anything (see the houses involved) and can often be damaging to us without our knowing it. Obsession can lure us in until we dissolve within it, losing our separate sense of self along the way. 

This brings us back to BML and its role as ‘anti-Moon’—passion/obsession is ultimately about the desire of the screaming, hungry child to return to the breast.  The object of obsession is elusive; our desire to own the object raises fear, terror and threat of loss, with fantasy offering the only temporary release. 

When we are obsessed, those obsessions become our substitutes for living, and they replace a healthy participation in life itself.  We choose anti-life, and this is certainly the black moon’s realm. ”

— The Inner Wheel, “Some Thoughts on the Black Moon”

For Strawng Lilith, this otherness becomes a chronic soul pain, the source and cause for crazy, passionate behavior that feels so right at the time, but upon (much later) reflection, was probably just an over-the-top, much delayed defense mechanism from childhood and adolescence. 🙈

Which is why strong Lilith is haunted by the feeling of badness, of being wrong to the core, and unable to participate in the human project without scandalizing the rest of humanity. 😡😓

but… lilith, especially staaawng lilith, is also the liberator. 💪🏻

Lilith might get you into trubbs… but she’s also what gets you out of it. ✅

What the rabbis determined to be “lilith” is identical to the feeling of conviction and self-authority. All the astrological Liliths represent where + how we prefer authenticity, where + how we defer to our own authority…

…what complicates that faculty are all the scabby layers of social conditioning. 🤺

In early life, we’re shamed and blamed for acting from the energy correlating with our Black Moon Lilith, and ultimately conditioned to loathe this side of ourselves. If we have a strong Lilith, we experience a steady drip of confrontation and alienation, and a more grueling struggle to heal our otherness.

That’s why injustice is core to the Lilith archetype. Lilith is that part of us that’s politically incorrect, and also the part that feels most suffused through the rest of our existence.

“People with dominant Lilith vibe get no traction from wiles nor networking. They’re self-powered privacy addicts. Lilith energy is raw, cynical and worldly-seasoned. Symbolically, their ‘wings’ are like the mermaid’s tail, allowing them to thrive in the Air (Knowledge), the way a mer-tail makes someone proficient in the Sea (Emotion). Lilith energy becomes more – not less – potent with time. Age does not weary her. It energizes her, perhaps because of the increasingly lowered expectation that she play a flirtatious, appeasing or nurturing role.”

—Mystic Medusa, “Renegade Lilith in Pisces is Imminent” (circa 2019)


In later life, however, after gathering enough reference experience, we’re better able to inventory the trauma and drama surrounding Lilith, recover from self-alienation, and reset the control dramas borne from denying the truth in order to achieve complacency. ✊🏻

Healing this internal rift not only benefits strong Lilith in particular, but aids others in proximity, those who rely on stronger personalities to model what it looks like to act from raw instinct without fear of persecution….

…because, haters gon’ hate. 💁🏻‍♀️

And, as the story demonstrates, it’s not your task to convince others of your rightness (leading into more controversy), but to learn, heal, and soothe your need to be convincing.

Basically, Black Moon Lilith is your way of decoding and anticipating your own trigger-points.

BELOW, I have self-help tips, recovery tools, + magical recommendations for helping you deeper inventory your Black Moon Lilith situation, and begin cantilevering yourself out of your own Lilith-created power sagas (thank goodness)…

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    strong lilith examples 🐍🌟>

    V or Eve Ensler: Lilith ☌ Midheaven (lovvve this interview with Design Matters 🤤) 🐍✨ Marilyn Monroe (Black Moon Lilith ☌ ASC in Leo ♌️) 🐍✨ Christopher McCandless: Lilith @ 2° in the Tenth House (the true-life armchair-philosopher who inspired Into the Wild) 🐍✨ Our patron lady who delivered us Mean Girls, Tina Fey (Lilith ☌ ASC in Leo ♌️)

    🌟 Go here to read more about Lilith aspects with the personal / inner planets (with celebrity examples), and balance against this article with descriptions of Lilith aspects with the Outer Planets, angles, and Nodes. 💫

    🌟 This astrologer describes “prominent” Lilith placements, including Lilith on the angles, which you can balance against Dark Pixie Astrology’s descriptions of a strong Lilith.

     

    OKAY, BUT WHAT CAN WE DO ABOUT LILITH?

    (A.K.A. HOW TO USE BLACK MOON LILITH IN SHADOW WORK 🐍👻👁)

    SO, once aware of this Lilith vibe in your make-up… what are you gonna do about it? 😳🤔

    I’m not the first to suggest this, but you can use your natal chart as a tool for shadow work, for becoming aware of and integrating your so-called dark side. 👻🌟

    Black Moon Lilith offers a persona for which we’re able to face our shadow, this part of ourselves harboring the childlike audacity to respect its need for truth-to-self. Self-acceptance is the key to unlocking and resolving most of our Lilith angst, as well as learning to quit projecting anger and resentment and embroiling oneself in control dramas.

    As we’ve learned, we’re conditioned to repress, deflect, project, or straight-up deny our Lilith. Our Lilith-angst gets trained into us, and that’s why it takes time and experience to spot where she’s worked her wiles…

    …and to intuit when she’s about to pop up and complicate things. 😬😅

    “But there are also people arguably with challenging charts who have not done ‘the work’, and may become, in a way, malefic or negative influences to the people around them. It makes sense if they have not owned their own darkness and persist in projecting their unowned shadows and wounds onto others. It does not help these individuals to seek astrology that is fear-based and oriented towards ‘protecting’ or coddling them from harm or hard lessons, which may in fact come from the consequences of their own actions and avoidance.”

    — Janet Chui, “Astrology & Shadow Work”

    Just like Mars, Saturn, or Pluto (planets known as “malefics”), Black Moon Lilith points to where we might justify damage we do to ourselves, relationships, and opportunities.

    Taken all together (Lilith + the other malefics), you can assess your own hooks and hang-ups, and decide whether these behaviors are useful, or whether they create painful consequences that needle your insecurities (as well as attract people who manipulate you according to your insecurities).

    Once familiar with the face of your shadow self, you can decide whether the “shadow work” you undertake is meditation, rituals, journaling, or just cathartic conversations with your friends or therapist.

    “The shadow is the ego’s facade of personal power that is used to compensate for lack of faith in divine connection and fulfillment of desires through love of self and Source. It is instinctual remnant of the unconscious human ego drive for survival and self-gratification, which blocks the pathway to self-realization and self-actualization. It is the unconscious expression of the personality seeking dominance and protection in order to hide vulnerability.”

    — “Black Moon: A Guide to Healing the Shadow Side”

    Our Lilith is not just our taboo, but our seat of conviction. Black Moon Lilith correlates with the viscera that communicates whether or not the situation, circumstances, or other players are okay for us.

    She stalks sacred ground that was once trespassed.

    Lilith shows where we’re repressed, is linked to our sexual perversions, and memories of being perverted by others…

    Even if it wasn’t “that big a deal.”

    Like--being promised DisneyLand, but only if you “let the doctor do what he needs to do,” or whatever insanity was foisted upon you by the people you loved and depended on... and only if you don’t cry or embarrass them in any way… (Yayyyeee… tinker belle. 😕)

    reclaiming our lilith is about reclaiming private territory within our psyche, the hotspot where true living alchemy is able to happen. 🐍🔮✨

    Usually where Lilith shows up feels exciting, but also hella scary… 😬

    …which is why we default to less-than-appealing behavior strategies, in order to protect this piece of ourselves from intense exposure, and the pain of disconnection.

    This is totally why Lilith is part of our sexy kinks, why Lilith is read as one of the “erogenous” zones in a natal chart. Lilith is one of our most vulnerable placements, a space we tend to dissociate from. We thrill when there’s contact to this placement whether from a transiting planet or by way of someone else’s planet connecting to her through synastry. 💕

    The eroticism linked with Lilith might help re-orient you towards remembering what you forgot you were repressing, and help you re-engage with the taboo sensations you’ve dissociated from—since whatever time you last experienced the sacred NO / YES, but were met with some kind of antagonism (caregivers, educators, peers, etc.).

    and as long as your sacred self, your sacred no and sacred yes, are wrapped up in “taboo” feels, then you’ll be perpetually seeking permission to be in your own body.

    Unconsciously, you are already validating-seeking and trying to vindicate your childlike “sacred self” in whatever arena your Lilith lands in.

    “Many around us are still stuck in the state of needing external validation from others, suppressing wounds, shame or trauma; and in doing so continue self-limiting habits and possibly harmful relationships that are more endemic of our childhood conditioning than of our true selves.If our purpose is to grow, and the purpose of all souls is to learn and experience, we may owe it to ourselves to discover and reach our highest potential with the time and energy that is given to us.”

    — Janet Chui, “Astrology & Shadow Work”

    What makes Lilith part of our personal shadow, however, is that we do not want to be made aware of the regrets and cravings symbolized by the Black Moon. With our Lilith placement, we want plausible deniability, or at least total dominion over this context.

    Thus, we willingly enter into control dramas that feel more comfortable to our false “ego self” (which is really just a scab over our soul-self), but create knottier, grimier alienation, once everything shakes out.

    BUT…. but…. if you were to make a conscious effort to notice and exercise compassion for your Lilith tendencies, then you have a powerful, and definitely occult advantage.

    Your advantage is that you are aware that there are aspects of your personality and ego that are not within your control…

    …and not supposed to be.

    basically, empowerment through black moon lilith comes from investigating the source and potential of your regrets, motivating you as they are from a secret spot that you don’t like to check, and therefore avoid.

    This is how we end up “mean girl’ing” our own inner Lilith, even if she’s strawng in our charts, and we can’t not identify with her.

    But of course… like… the kind of empowerment that comes with learning to apologize, and personal accountability. 👌🏻

    “But we can reconcile the shadow side and move back into a higher state of consciousness when we become intimately familiar with the Black Moon. We can learn which primary fear we manifest and the specific interpersonal issues that are related to it. As we work with this information, we learn to identify when we are reacting from the fear of our shadow side and transcend it by remembering that it is really a result of feeling disconnected from Source and is not an inherent flaw on our part. We can consciously re-re our brains to overrule the reptilian brain when our fears are engaged. We can interrupt the circuit by choosing to respond differently. In essence, we can transmute our “Inner Reptilian” into “Puff the Magic Dragon.” In the process, we evolve.”

    — “Black Moon: A Guide to Healing the Shadow Side” 🤘🏻

    Black Moon Lilith safeguards our sacred ground, and shows where we draw conviction, and also, where we might self-sabotage (or running screaming into the night) when met with outside force or agenda.

    Eventually, we tire of denying the problem, running from the consequences, and lamenting the people we’ve ditched (who we miss 💔).

    With awareness of our Lilith, we can hazard against our own most taboo, self-sabotaging tendencies and maybe even use the scratch on Lilith in astrology to help us reframe some past situations we have to set right.

    Along with other “shady” chart placements, you can assess your own hooks and hang-ups, and decide whether these are behaviors that bring useful people into your life, or people who manipulate you according to your insecurities.

    Astrology is gonna make us right. 👍🏻

    some general tips for assessing and soothing your black moon lilith 🐍✨ >

    🌟 VALIDATE YOUR EXPERIENCE > Find independent, substance-free ways of giving your Lilith what she’s missing, and feels she cannot get for herself (without manipulation). Invent the initiations and ordeals to help purge your remorse and clarify your resolve. From this Psychology Today article about self-validation as means of accepting your internal experiences….

    “Self-validation is accepting your own internal experience, your thoughts, and your feelings. Self-validation doesn’t mean that you believe your thoughts or think your feelings are justified. There are many times that you will have thoughts that surprise you or that don’t reflect your values or what you know is true. You will also have feelings that you know aren’t justified. If you fight the thoughts and feelings or judge yourself for having them, then you increase your emotional upset. You’ll also miss out on important information about who you are as a person.”

    🌟 MAKE AMENDS > Find and apologize to the people pulled into your Lilith drama. This isn’t an opportunity to vindicate your behavior, but to acknowledge that the behavior was janky AF. Offer to help or clean up any consequences made by your Lilith angst. For inspo, here is a description of “making amends” in the 12 Step program, and an article from HealthLine.com, “Owe Someone an Apology? Here’s How to Make Things Right.”

    🌟 GIVE IT UP TO A HIGHER POWER > All of this might be cool info, but it can’t necessarily derail the anger or upset that happens when you’re about to Lilith out. It’s controversial, but the first couple steps in AA are (1) admitting powerlessness, and (2) surrendering your drama to a higher power. Though Lilith is not at all like alcohol addiction (😳), many of us self-justify toxic behavior to remorse (😓). Acknowledging that  you will never “master” or “fix”this inner drama can take the edge of the those (soon-to-be regretted) moments.

    In Angels & Archetypes, Dr. Carmen Boulter (producer of the NatGeo doc The Pyramid Code, hay now ✨), attributes Lilith as the divine feminine archetype or key for conviction >

    “All those on the spiritual path can attain the stamina it takes to process the past, deal with karma, and face the challenges of life. There is a vortex of divine energy that gives us the spiritual determination to persist through the continual tests. 

    We experience a loss of power when we are bettered, invalidated, or taken advantage of. Enormous grief and loss can cause an internal meltdown, and it feels as if we lose our strength. If we reach out into the cosmos and ask for assistance, we are inevitably fortified.

    Of course, life challenges always push us beyond our capacity to cope, and in many situations we simply do not feel strong enough…

    When we appeal for assistance, we enter into an energy that remolds and recasts the situation into a divine scenario for the good of all concerned. By facing our fears and standing up for what is right and good, we participate in the evolution in of consciousness and break the mold of oppression.”

    If you’re not quite sure what people are talking about when they reference conviction, or can’t automatically locate its feeling-source in your body, or remember the last time you felt anchored into your true self…

    …you might need to build a stronger relationship with your self (🌟), ground your body in nature, and make decisions based on instinct and personal experience, though they may be ineffable to everyone else in your life.

    And you can do that process without losing Eden, Adam, or God, or learning to be contented on the fringe, basically knowing that everyone in town is spreading rumors that you’re a hairy-legged baby-muncher. 😩😓

    i don’t have a pat-down method, system, or process for reclaiming + integrating lilith (once astrology has helped you alight upon her), but i can present some ideas and witchy swag options to help you start… 🙌🏻✨

    Lilith is associated with witches and witchiness. Black Moon Lilith shows where we spell-cast, shows where we’re enchanted: unable to notice our own force of personality, and also where others can become enthralled (for better or worse). similar to the spells we all used to cast during imaginative play in childhood.

    “Try to imagine all the forces of the material world, all the energetic essences, without the world itself to contain them. That’s what the Black Moon represents.

    And that’s one of the reasons that BML, when she sacrifices destruction and gives up relating herself to the material world, is the true representative of occult abilities in the chart. She’s witchy, all right. More than witchy.

    Far from being at the mercy of her hungers, once she realizes she doesn’t have to be hungry she has the powers of all the hidden knowledge of the universe at her feet. She just knows. Her knowledge is instinctual, and doesn’t necessarily fit any logical patterns of knowing. Her wisdom is an ancient one and allows her access to become mistress of those other-worldly forces.

    There is a clarity, too, that can arise once the rage of BML is confronted and her anger and hunger quelled. Once we understand the seat of that rage, we can clear any debris from our soul’s path. ”

    — The Inner Wheel, “Some Thoughts on the Black Moon”

    Luckily, if you have the liberty and privacy to even be reading this silly, self-indulgent astrology blog (you’re welcome 👐🏻✨), you have the ability to begin undermining your own conditioning, and re-aligning with the natural magic you probably haven’t known since you were very young.

    if black moon lilith can provide an avatar for shadow work, “witchy lilith” can be the sage, guide, or inner-gandalf to help you remain brave and stay the course. 🧙🏻‍♀️🐍✨

    Our Lilith placement personifies our inner witch, the part of ourselves that most resembles Baba Yaga (if not Stevie Nicks), the part most willing and prepared to defunct out of normal society and take up residence in a cave in the middle of the woods, or a Chevy towing an Airstream.

    Because she fled Eden, Lilith adapted to relying on natural instinct and magic-mysticism for survival. Lilith symbolizes our personal capacity for scratching our own eyes out of our head in order to heighten our psychic visions, as well as our capacity for chewing off one of our own limbs in order to flee confinement.

    Basically, Black Moon Lilith can't be reasoned with, and can’t be rationalized, so if you’re trying to align with her, you best be prepared with some witch essentials.

    Along with some of the self-help empowerment tips listed above, Witchy Lilith can help you soothe and re-frame the insecurities as outbursts of sacred protective energy.

    If your Lilith episodes correlate with some pretty shameful memories (🤦🏻‍♀️), think of that energy as your witch powers erupting, but happening at a time when you lacked awareness, and solidarity.

    articles about lilith magic 🐍✨>

    Witch Powers According to Lilith ✨

    Lilith & Other Signs of Witchiness in the Natal Chart ✨

    How to Work With Your Lilith Sign ✨

    Famous Witches & Prominent Birth Chart Markers ( 🤩 ) 

    lilith for magic (provided by mystic) 🐍✨>

    Flower: Lily ✨ Incense/Oil: Frankincense ✨

    Tree: Willow ✨ Crystal: Emerald ✨ Animal: Eagle, Snake, Owl ✨

    Element: Air/Fire ✨ Magic: Words of Power ✨

    Temple: Deserts, Caves, Islands, Shorelines, Underworld, Liminal Spaces (see more ✨)


    a lilith reading list for modern witches 🐍✨>

    Alongside Angels & Archetypes ✨, I’d recommend The Holy Book by Zsusanna Budapest ✨ and Carolyn Elliott’s Existential Kink: A Method for Getting What You Want by Getting Off on What You Don’t ✨, because it has tons of totally non-astrological, non-magicky reference material for naming psychological taboos, with helpful exercises for reclaiming those feelings, for which Internet people such as myself were used as guinea pigs via Facebook-based magic classes, YOU’RE WELCOME.  💫

    Basically, over time, we can neutralize our taboos, and become more sovereign over our body, feelings, and energy. We don’t break her, but douse her with compassion—as much compassion for her as we have for our adorbs’ Venus or goddess asteroids, while realizing that Lilith is not there to make us more likable, but to protect our best, most soul-intentioned interests….

    …all of which would dissolve into the cosmic drip of unconsciousness, if we didn’t have this handy abstraction called Lilith to work with, to help exhume our “othered” side. 🤘🏻

    Astrology is gonna make us right! 🙌🏻✨

    (And maybe also therapy. 💁🏻‍♀️)

     

    EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO DEEP-DIVE INTO BLACK MOON LILITH 🐍🌟 >

    Whether to sate your Lilith-yearning or decrypt your own slippery conviction, this is your starting point!


    We all have Lilith taboos, and bad moments.

    Sometimes, we Lilith out. 🏃🏻‍♀️👻

    And then we come back, and prove ourselves out.

    We become conscious of our Lilith once we learn the visceral difference between “I’m getting my way on this no matter what!” and “I thoroughly understand your terms, but this is non-negotiable, and I’ve already explained why. Now please, let the girl go.”

    It’s rad just becoming aware (+ sympathetic to) your Lilith-taboo, so that even if you can’t always control her in your behavior ( 😅👌🏻)…

    …you might at least feel more empowered defending her in your narrative. 🐍✊🏻

    In a few months (during my personal Lilith Return 🐍💫), I’ll have deeper intel and more resources for getting mileage out of your own Lilith Awakening-moments…

    …subscribe here to find out when that post goes live, and to also score these hella cool printable Lilith altar cards! 😋👍🏻

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